“That’s Why I Love You”
Back in 2012 I decided to make a journal for my wife. Every day for a whole year, I would write something positive about her and the reasons I loved her. I looked for the things that touched me, or revealed attributes or characteristics that highlighted the reasons why I fell in love with her in the first place. I gave it to her for Christmas that year and she cried and said it was the best gift she had ever received.
Here’s the kicker though…
The person most affected by this gift, was me. It is scientifically proven that when a human being expresses kindness and appreciation to another human being, it raises the serotonin levels in both people’s brains. It physiologically makes us feel better.
Writing something every day made me concentrate on my wife’s positive aspects. I was consciously looking for all the things that she was doing right, and fell deeply in love with her all over again. Maybe even more than ever, as now I was seeing the subtleties in her nature and behaviour rather than her most obvious qualities, which I took for granted every day.
Too often in life we concentrate on what we need to do and where we are headed rather than appreciate where we are and who we are with, now.
As a further extension to TWILY, for a long time now, I have been fascinated how appreciation impacted individuals, relationships, teams and the corporate world. I guess on a subconscious level that’s how TWILY was born. I have found, and what a lot of large organisations already know, is that appreciation not only impacts relationships and how we feel about ourselves, but also productivity in the workplace.
…And maybe even more importantly: When you are in the final days of your life, what will you want or need?
Will you be checking your In- tray?
Will you want to drive your beautiful car?
Will you find comfort in looking over profit and loss statements?
Of course not.
What will matter, then, will be people. If relationships will matter most then, then shouldn’t they matter most now? Make no mistake, the effect you have on others is the most valuable currency there is.
No more excuses. Send a TWILY and be the change you want to see in your relationship.
What we’re about
The TWILY Mission
TWILY’s mission is to change your mindset and how you think about your loved ones and people around you. TWILY was designed to motivate you to look for at least one positive every day. To focus on all the positives, not the negatives. We stand for making every relationship in your life a fulfilling one, where you show appreciation and kindness. We guarantee that this will improve any relationship.