What is Romance?
No one is born romantic.
But like most things in life, being romantic is something that can be learned. Although romantic gestures may seem like they come easily to some people that is only because they’ve had lots of practice and because they are in tune with what motivates the opposite sex.
Because that’s all that is involved. Being romantic involves finding out what your partner wants (not what they need!), and then finding a unique way to meet those wants. Pretty simple, huh?
Let’s get one thing cleared up first. Being romantic isn’t about some grand extravagant gesture like flying first class to Paris for a 2 week romantic blitz. It’s about the little things. Little things are simple things that you do for your loved one.
One thing that most people want, male and female, is to feel special and loved. It’s how you show them that you love them, where the challenge comes in. Some people feel loved when they are told repeatedly that they are loved. Others see love in gestures and everyday kindnesses. Of course, there are others that may need all two of the above to really feel loved and secure but usually there is one need that dominates. You need to find out what your partner needs and then you can begin working out what method you will use to romance them.
Not sure what your loved one prefers? Do an experiment or three and see how they respond? You’ll very quickly work it out.
What can you do if your loved one wants to hear how much you love them? You need to tell them. But don’t just tell them and have it coming off like some kind of rote response to hello or goodbye or please pass the pepper.
Think about different ways you can get your message across. You could:
. Send a romantic email
. Text them a love message
. Place a love or post it note somewhere it will be found easily, in their car or lunch bag or under their pillow or taped to the phone receiver or their computer
. Make a long list of the many reasons why you love your partner and have the list framed and present it to them.
. Give your loved one a compliment, about how great they look or what their smile does to you
If your actions speak louder than words for your loved one then you’ll want to focus on gestures that express your feelings. You can try:
. While your partner showers, heat up his or her towel in the dryer.
. Have flowers delivered to partner at work.
. Surprise your partner by arriving home with their favourite drink, snack, or ice-cream.
. Write your own love coupon offering an hour of your time as their personal love slave.
. Call spontaneously at their work to say “I am thinking of you.”
The only limit is your own imagination and the desire to make it happen.
A relationship is a lot like working a muscle. One bicep curl won’t get you stronger. Just as you need to work on your relationship daily.
Consistency is the key.
If you are searching for more options, a relationship expert is on our TWILY website. Our interactive and simple help desk may be able to make a few suggestions to get that romance back o where it used to be.